Affection is the essence of life. Affection, after fear, is the most powerful of our emotions.

We humans differ in many ways when it comes affection. I have never able comprehend for instance at our desire to show affection towards inanimate objects. I show none but most people do. People also tend to be affectionate towards other species which is also a mystery for me. Showing affection and getting it definitely has a positive effect on people.  

What your are today, your personality, your behavior, your intelligence, your likes and dislikes, your beliefs or lack of it is related to the amount of affection you received as kid. More of it is not necessarily good and less of it is not necessarily bad. No that is not a contradiction. Certain traits and virtues develop in people at both ends of the spectrum.

Who or what people choose show affection towards is random at best, people don't seem to be able or want to ascertain it. When it comes to other humans more often than not people seem to choose others based on their virtues or vanities unconsciously or even instinctively. People are the same time very conscious about the fact that affection can bring them both joy and sorrow.

What I have been able to gather studying affection is that people are strange.

Pain is what I feel when my dentist is working on my teeth as if he is planning to build a skyscraper in my mouth. But that is not the worst kind of pain. There worse ones. The pain I feel when I am forced to think like others. Pain is what I feel when everybody around me trying to convince me that I am wrong, when they do it with flawed reasoning but utter self-confidence and self-assurance in them. Pain is what I feel when are I am helpless. Pain is what I feel when I don't get what I want. These are the kinds of pain I don't want to feel. I don't want to take the easy path.

My emotional intelligence has been extremely low for years. I am actually surprised at myself for having gotten away with it for this long. This what someone, who will always be special to me, had to tell not too long ago

You look at me like a mathematical equation.

Now that you know where I stand in terms of emotions, most of you might know a lot of stuff that I would be writing here but they are new to me.

Emotions cannot be classified as good or bad. They can be good or bad, useful or destructive. Fear is no different. Fearlessness cannot exist. Suppose you are fearless of something it is because you fear something else. We instinctively fear death hence we like to live. You will come across people who claim they are fearless, ignore them. You will across people who are actually fearless of death since fear living. Whatever your fears might be you will be fearless of other things that are diametrical.

Fear is useful, very useful, when used carefully. When you are fearless of something you need to be aware of the fear that drove you in the first place to be fearless and never loose sight of it. This isn't easy because it is exactly the opposite of what we naturally do. That very nature of us to do so leads us to sadness but that is for later.

Fear is the most basic and also the most powerful of all human emotions. It can drive you to any extreme. Again that may be good or bad. Both extremes are possible.

Fear also plays a significant role in any kind of Human Bonding. One particularly fascinating instance is when you are friends with somebody you share some common fears. The stronger the fear in both of you the better friends you make.